In our A-Z of Birth and early parenting - A is for Attachment Parenting. As a birth doula I consider it of vital importance to consider your parenting style early (preferably before your first is born). Many parents are surprised by this as often the topics of importance are taking leave, from work, baby showers, and parental leave/baby bonus. Some parents have been having conversations around the subject of parenting already. How you were parented affects your views on parenting.
Do you want to parent as your parents did?
Are you determined to be nothing like your parents?
If so do you have a vision for how this will look?
Do you have a plan or a framework for achieving this (particularly if you are planning to be different to your own parents)?
October is attachment parenting month
Personally and having studied with DONA International - I am a huge fan of the attachment parenting style as a parenting tool (note as a tool not a discipline).
The seven principles of attachment parenting are (thanks to Dr Sears):
- Birth bonding
- Bedding close to baby
- Belief in the language value of your baby's cry
- Beware of baby trainers
If your current pregnancy planning ends at birth, then maybe it's time to have a chat with me - and start your post-partum planning.
The reality is that birth lasts for a few days, but parenting lasts for a lifetime! The time to set up a good foundation, in agreement with your partner is now!